I agree that you shouldn't help and the kids shouldn't see her move. Unless the kids need something, I'd let her do it all. She has to see what it will be like without you around.

M 44 H 46
M 20yrs T 25 yrs
S15 S12

ILYBINILWY 7/18/15
Move to MBR 9/8/15
Physical Separation 10/10/15
Suspect A 8/2015
Confirm A 12/27/15
D filed by H 2/2/16