Way Too Late Pt 3

[Zues126]

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I would do anything to reconcile this M. Because you feel desperate for the M you will act however you think will bring WAS back.

I'll try to visit later and spend time on someone else's thread. Mine is too depressing. It's nice seeing people who stand a chance. Because you feel depressed you try to give up hope.

I'm really tired of people who drink and do stupid crap to tell you the truth. I'm so done. I can't believe it...I'm not sharing anything with anybody from this point forward unless it's here. Because you feel frustrated that someone did something that you feel hurt your chances, you will act more reserved.

There are positives and negatives about your choices. There is nothing wrong with keeping this to yourself to a point, but there is something wrong with all of these reactions to your feelings.

What you need to understand is that there are important parts of your body right now...your HEART, your BRAIN, and your FEET. Your heart is what you feel, your brain is what you think, and you're feet are what you do. Who's steering the bus?

I tell people not to follow their heart, because their feelings are all over the map. If you follow your heart you will be a roller coaster, inconsistent, one minute wanting to R, the next wanting to punish WAS, and so on. It's no different than what WAS is doing when they leave the M. It doesn't work.

I tell people not to follow their brain, because 99% of your thoughts are just rationalizations for your feelings, and not 'true' at all. Even if it seems really logical it's distorted logic, or you're not being equally logical in other areas where it doesn't serve your true motives of the heart. So don't follow or trust your thoughts.

Ultimately you must have a few CORE BELIEFS, and then follow those with your feet, despite what your heart and head say.

So 1313, I care how you feel in terms of being supportive, hoping you're ok, and using that as a way to learn where you can grow (negative emotions are the universe's way of telling you where you are looking at things wrong). But I don't care at all about how you feel in terms of using that information to change your game plan. For example, if your core belief is that you should be appreciative of your life and live it to the end, then I don't care how bad you feel, you don't get to end it. And no matter how bad you feel, you don't get to burn bridges and 'burn it all down' for closure. Stop it. Stop it. Just stop.

This needs to change. I can't say for sure so don't mean to be manipulative, but common sense would tell me that WAS was tired of walking on eggshells around you because you counted on her to feel good about yourself, when you didn't feel ok it was because of her not doing enough, you were probably critical when you weren't satisfied, and ultimately she was probably exhausted from the constant monitoring of your emotions. Time to be a strong man, that doesn't mean insensitive and out of touch with your feelings, it simply means able to do the job in front of you regardless of how you feel. You have work to do, you have to do it even if you have a bit of a headache.

I am curious to know- what are your core beliefs? In 3 years when this has all blown by, what would you like to be able to say about the way you handled this? What would you like to be able to say about who you became?