Rednail- Me, Myself, and I

[Painter]

There is a difference between getting sole use of the house in a separation/divorce agreement and him *giving* you use of it on his terms. Did the L say anything about H having access to the house?

It shouldn't be hard to include a stipulation about your right to privacy - it's a key feature in the S agreements I've seen, making it clear that the parties are not interfere in each other's lives and have no say over the other. It's at the core of a separation and in the word itself.

It does sound like your H is awfully patronising - you've let him take the lead always, right? He has no reason to respect you, in his mind. It's important to stand up for yourself and not allow others to take your power. Doesn't mean you have to angry, just firm. Imagine yourself as a piece of granite - an unmoving boulder.