"That is my dilemma - if I do all the work - I may be letting her off the hook. "
Still shows you trying to control her. You just concentrate on yourself and your needs. Stop trying top make her feel some kind of responsibility. Live for yourself first and foremost.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
