Sorry it has been a long time posting but I have been sick for a while. I have been way over worked at my job which lead to me getting way to worn down and catching pneumonia. I did not realize I had it and went to work while fighting it for about two months before I ended up in doctors care. I have been out for over a week now and have finally got my head clear and had time to reflect on my situation.
I found out my ex is in the running away mode again. She has basically stopped caring or dealing with our older two daughters. She said she is not prepared to deal with it and has just shut them out. She is now chasing men again to try and get a new life and abandon the one she has left.
I had hopes until now. I think some of my judgement was clouded due to illness and lack of good sleep with rest. I am now seeing what she is doing and saying. I am now again hearing what my daughters are telling me.
I believe that some of our spouses are too ill to ever face the challenge and will always choose to run. I think this can be traced to their families as well. When i take a serious look at my wife's family I see not one good relationship between my wife's siblings and their children. I see a lot of wreckage. How one family can spread the same wreckage is beyond comprehension.
I have reaffirmed my vow to be the rock for my children. I may make some mistakes along the way. I will no longer try and help their relationship with their mother. I will no longer prop her up and bail her out. She needs to deal with her choices.
I know this may sound harsh. I have to do this to give my daughters a chance to get out of this a normal view and maybe the room to heal.
Twisting on Life's Rope Me53 W53 M20 D21 D19 D16 BD 2-2013 D final 1-2015 _________________________ "Dream about tomorrow, Live for today, Learn from yesterday"