Cali, I know what you mean. To me anything short of a new marriage with the improved old spouse is failure. Yeah the personal growth is great, I appreciate all the hard work but really, did it save my marriage? I struggle with "the joy is in the journey" perspective.

That said, your boy is giving you a great yardstick to measure yourself by, isn't he? At the end of the day, despite this not being what you signed up for you really are showing your son what it means to be a good and strong man.

I have to believe that for both our sakes Mirage and Job are correct, and we will come to the same realization down the road.

M 20+ T25+
S ~15.5 (BD)
BD 4/6/15
D 12/23/16

"Someone I loved once gave me
A box full of darkness.
It took me years to understand,
That this too, was a gift."
~ Mary Oliver