IMO Reds he is purposely hurting you to control you and if you show signs of pain he knows he still has you. Everything that he is offering you sounds like control to me. I have been at this a short time, so my opinions are not based on experience just how I see it, even his questions about you seeing or sleeping with someone. He wants to be your one and only while he has someone else too. I thinks its an ego thing and its disgusting!
Me 41 W 33 M 2013 Suspect A 11/15 Confirm A 1/16 She moved out 2/14/16 Stepson 13 Stepson 16