Thank you Vanilla. I will try and write that letter in my journal. I cannot help but think that there is something emotionally wrong with me that I did not show affection to my WW. I cannot say I drove her to OM but that I created the depression that open her to the idea. And worse I did not recognize it while it was happening. In the months that we have been separated I have done a lot of soul searching. Out of all the reasons she gave me, I believe the following to be true, 1. I was not affectionate, 2. I shut her out, 3. I was not intimate like I should have been (let me explain that a bit more) I wanted to be but something got in the way, 4. I took her for granted, 5. I was not supporting or compassionate.

I am not saying I did not care or love her, I did. But I was unable to show her how much she meant to me until of course it was too late. These are the things I have to work out and improve in myself.


Me 41
W 33
M 2013
Suspect A 11/15
Confirm A 1/16
She moved out 2/14/16
Stepson 13
Stepson 16