NYGal: What now?

[Painter]

I need advice, and quick! W texted: Will you be available this evening to talk? I texted back: What do you want to talk about?

I got a not so great gut feeling when I read that you asked her what she wanted to talk about. What did you expect her to answer? She doesn't know herself, even. I was sad but not surprised about her reaction.

Patience and letting go of control. It's so clearly your 180s.

I've learned a lot about it in the last several years, and I am not naturally a patient person (my dad used to say 'it's not far between thought and action with you'), so I know how hard it can be. I also have to urge to manage and fix situations and control the outcome. Unfortunately, it doesn't work outside work.

I think you did tapped the oyster/scared the squirrel when you asked for an agenda for the meeting.

Just take a note of it and use your painfully gained wisdom for the next encounter.