Thanks for the reply Cadet! I ask myself is my W really worth the fight after being cheated on? I see it this way we both failed each other in our M. At one time she was the fighter, and i in a sense was the quitter(did not listen) and she got to the point where she crossed the line, and figured there was no return(infidelity) Well now it's my turn to fight while she's in this crazy stage in her life. It's not all my fault i know that, but i did help put her there.The DR book has surely gave me a new approach to things, and how a marriage should be. I'm not going to give up on my W, but while i have time on my side i'm going to become better man i know i can be.
GWH, aside from the part about infidelity (which I am working under the assumption there is no OM). I could have wrote this paragraph. This is my story. I've even heard the words "crossed the line". I've even said the words " my turn to fight ". And "be a better man". It's rather odd how eeriely similar a lot of the guys stories are on here. You would've thought we all sat around and cumulatively decided to be bad husbands (I'm sure that's what our WAS think). I'm behind you brother. I had a major panic attack chicken little the sky is falling episode today. The guys and girls on this forum are awesome. I couldn't of made it this far without them.
Not only the guys on here but guys I know out here in the RW who have been thru it. Its like when a woman decides to go WW they go to the WW academy and all work out of the same playbook. As i said before it would almost be comical if it wasn't so sad and destroyed so many lives.
Me: 39 W: 38 S: 15 D: 12 D: 6 BD 8/15 NEED SPACE S 2/16 Divorced 4/17 and loving it, waw came back 12/17.....I declined
