I would say the anger is coming from resentment she had pushed down for a long time. A WW is selfishness at its worst. Some WW's are so full of anger toward the H that she doesn't want him to enjoy anything in life. Some WW's wants the H to suffer for making her unhappy. She wants him to be sad and lonely. She wants to manipulate him. If she sees him being happy without her and GAL, or if she feels she's losing control of him....it makes her very angry.

All your questions will probably never be completely answered b/c she is a different person now and that's what you really don't understand. Nothing is logical, and you are trying to find a logical reason for her behavior.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!