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[Sparkls]

I, of course, am no expert. But I think that they externalize the anger that they really feel for themselves. Its easier to make you the villain than admit what she did and internalize that as her being the bad person in this situation.

It seems fairly common (moreso with women it seems but that's simply an observation and could very likely be entirely wrong). When I didn't kick H out after finding out about the A he tried to make me angry by telling me he never loved me, he was faking it the whole time etc.
It's all bullsh*t. Keep doing what youre doing. It's likely she'll keep getting angrier until she realizes she's angry at the wrong person.
Some never get to this point but I hope for your sake she does internalize it and learn to move past it.