Any thoughts on why a WW simply gets colder and angrier? I know that me not DB'ing appropriately is the first thing that comes to mind. Assuming that DB is done correctly, what are thoughts on why this is?
My GAL'ing seems to make her angry, I give her the info she wants and she gets petty and bitchy about other things. I think she is mad that I have $$ to do things and she does not. I don't brag about what I am doing, just that I have something to do and need her to watch the kids.
I swear that she desperately wants to get a reaction out of me and my not engaging and simply validating makes her mad. "If that's what you need to do...I can see why you would feel that way, or I'm sorry you feel that way, etc" I don't even follow these up with a "But". I just leave it @ that and move on. They are not related to past unhappiness or R talks. Mostly her trying to bring up the D in some way. Typically via text as when she calls I don't answer about 75% of the time and she follows up with a text.
I haven't seen anything in threads on this topic and wanted to pose the question. I feel like a logical person would be happy they are about to enjoy this "fantasy life" they have convinced themselves is going to be soooo great. But WW are far from logical so.....
I know that it will get worse before it gets better as I have read, but curious on the psychology of a WW that drives this behavior and if it is common or due to something I am doing.
I know I am not DB'ing perfectly, but I think I am making some progress in detaching (still a ways to go but moving forwards). Haven't logged onto game or done anything to "see what she is up to" in a few weeks. I remind myself that she is going to do, what she is going to do and I cannot control or change that.
