I can see where you had problems with your counsellor Ghost.
In the UK, Relate etc. are set up to manage the end of relationship (when the two of you are the ends of the scale) instead of trying to fix it when you're lower down the scale. It's wrong, but having done it myself, you're better off on the forums. It's cheaper and more helpful getting advice on here!
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015