You may have already read this, but I would suggest that you not depend or expect her to clean up after you. If you tend to be messy, make sure you don't leave a trail of trash, food, shoes, dirty clothes, magazines, etc., behine you in the house. Keep your clothes washed and hung or folded. Make your bed and change your sheets. Keep the bathroom clean when you leave it.
Most women get really irritated when they have to ask the H to do something that he should be able to clearly see that it needs to be done. For example, taking out the trash; cleaning up after pets; helping clean the kitchen instead of getting up and walking to the other room; picking up papers, bottles/cans, or whatever left laying around, telling the kids what they need to do instead of waiting on her to to do tell them; keeping the car serviced and clean; keeping the yard looking good; complete any projects that were stalled; make repairs where needed; and just look around and see if there is something that needs doing that you have the habit of leaving it up to her to take care of it.
One word of caution here, stay balanced and don't go into super husband mode. Don't take over doing all the work. It is not good to do your part and hers too. And, it sure won't cause her to appreciate it. Some women resent the H for waiting till this point before he woke up and started doing these things.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
