Hi Cali - I so understand your disappointment for your son's sake. We all want in tact marriages for our kids. Someday, when your s is old enough and understands what really happened, he will see you as a man of integrity. This happened to you and your son and you, of course, can only control your share.
As for the mediation, I too live in CA. I have an acquaintance who divorced in CA as her h cheated on her. (I now believe he was in MLC but back then had no comprehension of such a thing.). Anyway she did intimate that she was awarded more in the divorce due to his cheating. I am not sure if such a thing is still accurate but I am sure you have covered this base.
Also, given your wife's reduced income due to her contract employment status, I am wondering if something can be written in the agreement to review salary every x amount of time?
Take care.
Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13 BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room" 8/15: H back to MBR 10/15: H back in dorm room 1/18: H files, now divorced
