Detach my lovely. A 40th is a big deal, really really big or you. Not marking it says something that WW has sacked you as her H. Detach and yes it hurts. My WH recently had his 60 I did not mark it and I let it pass. It did send me in a loop and I coped.
Let WW birthday pass you by, let it go. If the kids do cards then assist if you must for your kids, although I recommend you watch it pass you by.
Just my 2c.
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
