Thornton's right. I bet H isn't as happy as you think. There was an evening when I saw W out with our mutual friends, laughing and having a good time. My heart sank a little, then I realized, wait, I'm out with friends, and I'm laughing and (pretending I'm) having a good time, too! Two days later she appeared at my office like a sad puppy telling me how much she misses me. Looks can be deceiving.
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
I agree with Thornton. So a quick story and then I need to get off this forum and actually start my day…lol.
So, I have a friend. Her H cheated on her, they tried MC to reconcile, he went back to OW, and left her and her two kids. The OW texted her last week and asked to meet so they wouldn't be awkward at family events in the future. I told my friend to skip it, but she went. Her two takeaways - she is convinced the OW is on meds because she showed zero emotion (the OW did say her family isn't talking to her anymore) and she said her H looks very stressed out and overweight.
I think that is karma. While we may not be able to see it, I can't believe that two people who base their relationship on deceit can really trust one another and be all that happy. They are always going to question what they have and what they have left behind. (at least, that is my hope and hearing my friend's story kind of confirmed it)
Enjoy your day Sparkles - hope your dress shopping wasn't too painful and match day will be bright and sunny!
M 44 H 46 M 20yrs T 25 yrs S15 S12
ILYBINILWY 7/18/15 Move to MBR 9/8/15 Physical Separation 10/10/15 Suspect A 8/2015 Confirm A 12/27/15 D filed by H 2/2/16
He shows no remorse, no doubt, no change. I deserve so much better from him. Why can't I just let go and move on. Why am I not one of those people who says "whop, you cheated on me. I'm outtie." It's not like he even *wants* to come home right now. Why am I sitting here begging the universe for him to change his mind? Ugh.
Feel the same way, Sparkles….often….
M 44 H 46 M 20yrs T 25 yrs S15 S12
ILYBINILWY 7/18/15 Move to MBR 9/8/15 Physical Separation 10/10/15 Suspect A 8/2015 Confirm A 12/27/15 D filed by H 2/2/16
M:26 H:32 T:8yrs ILYBNILWY/ "I'm not happy": 2/6/16 D-Day-discovered PA/EA: 2/10/16 Separated: 2/14/16 He's living with OW I moved to different state: 06/16 Currently: Trying to move forward
