Need practical ideas to aid my 180/Last Resort.WAW

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TxHubby thanks for your comments. And yes I fully agree with you. I would love to say that to her. On an earlier post I quoted one of the "observations" about the WAW - that she won't change until she feels a loss due to her actions. So I was tempted to say to her get out. Quit dragging us through your nonsense. Hoping that if she left, she would feel the loss and come home.

Well one of the moderators (Sandi2 or Cadet) - slapped me into reality and said - it's not that easy and if I pushed her it would be my fault and my loss. And I agree. So now what.

I can't push her out. We have only been dealing with things as far as the current week. We have not looked any further. But, we've run out of rope. We need to plan and budget for the summer. I want to engage her so she wants to be part of it.

I'm totally sick of this having your cake ... I've been trying to set up boundaries and reasonable expectations and it's been OK. Could do better - but it's been a process. I realize the best way for her to see the changes I'm making in myself is if she is her with me.

The second I try and "take over" and plan it without her - it may be conceived as controlling.