Need practical ideas to aid my 180/Last Resort.WAW

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Sandi2: Thanks - yes we are still in-house separation. We have no documents, no real arrangements, we are just kinda floating along. We eat meals together as a family, she and I both take care of the house, she participates in most of the family activities i.e. board games, dinners, she even attends extended family events (2 birthday parties recently) and this past weekend the we went away as a family as part of the spring break.

She "hides" and consumes herself with her passion/career. She works on publishing papers and is constantly "tweeting" and conversing with her cyber friends. She is in a crisis and thinks (this is me guessing) that I have interfered with her career and the notoriety/prestige she craves.

Yes, she is having her cake and eating it too.

Why do I want me eldest to move back in. I really like her. I enjoy her company, she is great with her "little" brothers and it is silly for a student to pay rent when she only live a 15 min walk away.

So there are big expenses and many logistics coming up - Summer camps, etc. We are usually stretched but we will be even more.

The coach said don't talk about the future - show her. But, now there are some real planning steps that need to be put in place and money needs to be budgeted.

I'm concerned if and when the money discussion comes up she is going to say well I need money for my move, first and last months rent, etc. Being cold and selfish - only being a mom part time. etc

I don't want to push her - every time I have it's gone bad. So now I've stopped (180). So how do I look and plan without setting her off - but on the other hand how do I say life is going on and you can be part of it or you can be a selfish so and so and only think about you.

Does that help?