My coaching is over and I need some help. As part of GAL I need to start planning what's next for my kids, etc. The coach said don't talk about the future. Her in action shows confusion.
So what do I do? How do I start planning for my kids summer, etc. How do I plan anything financial? My eldest said she might move back in once by WAW moves out?
I would prefer they both move in (my eldest moved out because of the tension at home).
Any ideas on how to handle the every day events of life that take place - but have always been planned by us? Without triggering some kind of negative action on her part?
Thanks in advance.
Your marriage/family are your team. You plan your team's events as a team. She has said she doesn't want to be part of that team anymore. As part of your 180/detaching/GAL, you go on with your life and you plan the events for your team with your team. That means you and the kiddos plan your summer and don't include her in the discussion. You see, when you announce that you want to walk away you don't get to have your cake and eat it too. She wants out, fine, she's out. That means out of everything, not just what she wants out of. She doesn't get to unilaterally decide the terms of her wanting out.
