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Bright,

In many instances, we do encourage doing things for the wayward spouse, however, there comes a time when people will need to decide just how long they are going to continue doing so. At some point, when there is little to no movement (indications) that the wayward spouse is waking up or actually reconnecting, then something has to change. A person can either increase communication just a wee bit to see if the wayward spouse will begin responding more frequently or slowly decease some of those activities that a wayward spouse has left in the person's hands to see if there is any type of reaction and/or allow them to grow up and take on some responsibility.

Actually they can start a new phase of their lives while remaining married and living happily ever after w/o filing for divorce. If the wayward spouse gets involved w/op, they can always use the excuse that they are already married. Some of them are very happy to have their spouses continue to act as their "agents" and they can go about their business and know that they've got you in their back pocket if they ever wish to return. There are many cases where the wayward spouse just ups and leaves never to be seen or heard from again and the left behind spouse carries on as if the wayward spouse will return one day. Now, this could be a normal situation or a MLC situation. It's really anyone's guess, but it does happen.

Don't panic over what I've written. Am I saying that this is the situation w/you? I honestly don't know. You know your h better than any of us.

I'm glad to see that you've had a busy weekend. You need the GAL activities to help free your mind of MLC for a while.

I'm not telling you what to do, but I am offering you advice/suggestions to make you think about your situation and how to change things up. I think it would be best if I stepped away from your thread for a bit as you tend to get a bit upset/frustrated w/my postings and right now, you don't need to feel that way as you have enough to deal with.