I'll still get her a card for her bday next month. I will rise above it. I
I find it interesting how a LBH finds loop holes for pursuing a WW who has been completely awful to him. "Rising above it" seems to be one of the favorites. Why does rising above it require pursuit?
As a WW, she will see it as you pursuing her.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!