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[CWOL]

We spent most of Saturday together as a family. S11 had a great game again yesterday and he is doing really well. We watched and cheered but I sat behind the plate to video my son, partly on purpose. After the game we stayed and watch son's friend's game together and chatted with other families we know.
We went out to a new restaurant for dinner at my suggestion. I observed how disrespectful my WW is toward me. One of our frequent disagreements is which restaurant to go to, since WW rarely cooks (she claims it's because S11 and I complained about her cooking, which is not true). If I have any suggestions, she would shoot them down. Restaurant A is too "smelly," Restaurant B is too "crowded." Then if I ask her where she wants to go then, she would say, "I dunno." So I usually just give her a choice of A, B, and C and go from there.
So last night again was the same thing. She complains about this and that, every little thing that she didn't like at the restaurant. I tried to be as pleasant as possible, but I did not engage with her on these issues. I think this is the crux of what is wrong with our relationship, the disrespectful behavior she has toward me. I guess I can only overcome that by detaching and sticking to my guns.