I Still Think It's Too Late (pt 2)

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Hi everyone, I'm overwhelmed with the good thoughts and recommendations. Thank you so much.

Painter:
Just to clarify - the W filed for D.

The "identity theft" was the W pretending she was me on my domain and web hosting provider, transferring 3 domains to herself. I had offered her these domains 10 days previously, twice. She never answered me - I guess because stealing them was a better course of action?

To transfer these domains she had to read my emails, use one of the links they provided when I reset my password (possibly a reason they kept asking me to reset a password for them) and then she stole my user ID and PIN, and reset my password locking me out. Clever girl. They now have their domains and email. She told me she thought I'd be happy about this. I would have been happy to just turn it over to them - not have it stolen and be locked out of my account.

As far as what's going on now:

Even both lawyers thought that her asking to stop the D meant reconciliation and as mentioned - maybe it did for a moment. Who knows.

Our first court date was scheduled for Tuesday.

I have 2 ways to go. I can tell my L to tell the W's L to perform, as that's our right now that she's filed. I'd half like to do that as it would be a blow to the gut for the W and ruin her little vacation she's got planned next week with the OM.

I could also tell my L to tell the W's L to go ahead and put things on hold (I'm really not sure how this can be done) and not say anything at all to the W as far as her other wishes regarding a mediator. I guess the L can tell me how any of this would work - but I still want our side to finish up and be prepared for another sneak attack.

At some point I'll need to contact the W with an answer. My DB coach might have some clues on how to go about this whole thing - it's so weird.

It really is impossible to guess what's going on in the W's head, but I think maybe just for a moment she had second thoughts. Getting her OM fix snapped her out of it.

Oh well - it's going to be a rough day. I'm off to take my Mom to Church. I'll see the IL's there, and have to decide if I show them this message. I've really not talked to them proper for weeks. I guess I'll just play it by ear.