Sounds like the DB'ing has been helping you. I am glad to hear that but sorry that the MC isn't going well. Hopefully, detaching will continue to give you confidence for the future for you and whatever relationship you are in (with or without your W).

M 44 H 46
M 20yrs T 25 yrs
S15 S12

ILYBINILWY 7/18/15
Move to MBR 9/8/15
Physical Separation 10/10/15
Suspect A 8/2015
Confirm A 12/27/15
D filed by H 2/2/16