Your husband lashes out at you because you are a safe target for his anger. Also, he is reliving his youth and he feels that your son gets away w/things when he, as a child, didn't. He could be comparing life w/your son now to his own childhood past. He may have heard a lot of what he's saying to you as a child from his mommy dearest. I sense he didn't have a very loving home life as a child. I sense that his mommy dearest was a tyrant and showed very little love towards him. I could be wrong about this...but the stuff he says just makes me wonder.
Keep in mind, as a child, he is expecting your son to be interested in the same things that he is. He doesn't understand why your son doesn't share the same enthusiasm for the "toys" and he gets frustrated. I think your h is acting out a bit younger than your son at times. He doesn't understand what makes your son tick and there is the problem. Kids today don't always enjoy the things that we did growing up because the world has changed so much and you certainly can't expect them to understand the growing up years that we experienced.
It's all about him right now and it will be that way for a while. Your man/child is suffering from resentment, jealousy and selfishness right now. Also, they can't deal w/illness or death because it reminds them of mortality.
The new diet idea is a good one.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
