Where do we go from here Part 2

[TimR]

Thank you everyone for your support. It was nice to show off and it keeps me motivated to keep working and maybe even take it up a notch or two. Last night, I did most of the warm up with the kids and even managed 15 pull ups and then 10 chin ups. Today I did 4.5 miles again but my time was slower. But that's ok I still completed it and I will be faster next time.

I went to the birthday party but did not stop at the bar. My friend apparently drank at home and was worried about driving. Can't blame him.

JujuB, you asked if I thought our WS think about us. The small good moments. You know I do. Twice now I heard from two different people that she has made comments about how well we get along together. So at least in my sitch, I think she does think of me for a bit after a good interaction. When you think about it, we have spent so much time with them, how could they not think of us. In my case and probably many other cases, I think that can create anxiety of 'oh poop, I am hope I am not falling for them again.' I also think when OM/W is around those feelings get swallowed up by the addict mentality. But those honeymoon feelings are going to have to end. They did for all us. My plan is when those that world begins to crumble, I am still on her mind and those positive thoughts about me, the changes I have made, my physical appearance being better than when we started dating, my commitment to S and just little things will start flooding her mind and heart. Then she will be ready to take a step or two to R. It will be hard but cause she will have to deal with the betrayal and have to look herself in the mirror. So that is just my humble opinion. I think for my WW if I am pitch black it is easier to walk away, doesn't work out with OM then on to the next. But if there are little inconsequential conversations when the time comes, I hope I will be on the tip of her tongue.

The issue for me is the kids, because I do have to put them ahead of myself and M. Also, how long will this take? and will I still be there when she is ready?

Like Tyler posted on another thread, my ship has to maintain course and hers will have to catch up.