The start of my happiness 5

[trumpet]

Tyler,

It's my 40th tomorrow. My WW planned to celebrate her father's B-day on my B-day, even though is B-day is a week away.

If she says nothing to you, she still knows it's your B-day. She still remembers making your dinner, your cake. She's just ignoring the truth of the matter, since the feelings that would come with those memories will not jive with what she WANTS to feel right now.

Revel in knowing you are rising about it all, and hug your kids a few more times, telling EACH of them how much you love them. If you cry, that is actually pretty cool - let them see a strong man cry. You can captain this ship, Tyler. You can, and you will. And you will become a mentally strong man, and a man only a fool would leave. Chart the course, raise the sails, and steer the ship on this new course. You CAN steer this ship - the old ship, not so much.

Your comment about every interaction, or lack thereof, is something I feel every day now as well. You will need to interact with her, but only for kid stuff. Find those who respect and honor your boundaries, and show you love. Show them respect. Show your WW respect, because those you respect around you will be amazed. And the positivity ball will roll faster than you can imagine down the hill of life.