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Vanilla - that is a great idea….I am going to grade myself using the 37 rules, and grade myself against the boundaries I set. Because we are in different homes, some of the rules and boundaries are easier than others. Will be a really good exercise to see which ones I need to focus on. Thanks!

Hope - thanks for checking in with the positive feedback….as you know, some days are better than others. Having teenage boys helps distract me and it is a blessing that I enjoy watching sports as much as they do! Today was fun with S12 - gone all day at bball games with him.

I did have two things happen at the games that reminded me of my sitch:

- I bumped into H's best friend (he cheated on his W for 2 years, moved out for 10 months and now is in MC with his wife and moving back in soon). He introduced me to someone else as "the wife of one of my friends". How about just this is my friend that I've known for 25 years?

- Another guy my H knew came and sat down by me, introduced himself and then proceeded to ask me what H thought about our favorite team losing in the first round yesterday. How the heck should I know - we don't speak?!

None of this matters except it was a reminder about the H when I really was focused on S12 and enjoying my one-on-one time with him. It is also just weird how to interact with people who know and those who don't know. I hate that I have to figure out how to handle this - I hate that I am separated and headed for divorce. But, overall, it was a really good day with S12. We are going to order food now and catch up on the new Survivor….I hope everyone else had a wonderful Saturday.