Hello everyone! I wish i had found this site in January. I very well may not be where i am now. Anyways I'm 50, and my wife is 48. We have known each other for 17 years, and been married for over 16. I have a s of my own 25 and she has s29 and d26. We had a pretty good marriage, but had problems like like anyone else. One of the biggest problems was my son would alot of times disrespect my wife, and i would not correct him in the way i was supposed too. I did not stand up for my wife when my son did this, and it hurt her deeply. That was one of the things that i was at fault with. Ok so in September i start to question here with all the texting she's doing with guy from work, and she says it's nothing but general talk. I knew better because there were hours of texting. And not only with him, but she told me i was crazy to think anything else.
We had a vacation planned for that month, and she told me that we need to sort of start over. I should have known right there there was something wrong, but i didn't listen and the vacation was just like being home. Didn't pay much attention to her i was still thinking about all those txt. Well we got home, and i started to snoop and to her i didn't trust her. She took offense to that. Then in January i was looking in email for something and stumbled on something from her FB. It was a couple of messages from a guy saying you are amazing, i will be dreaming of you, stuff like that. I confronted her, and she said she would do anything to make it up to me. Well I knew she met up with this guy, and i could not stop pursuing her about what had happened. A week later she moved to her moms.
Like a dummy i continued to pursue, cry, beg, and so on. We talked and she said she was coming home by the end of the week. Well it never happened. Then she said she was gonna look for a place to move into. She moved into her apt on Jan 29th and has been there since. I kept doing the wrong things to, but she did tell me that she didnt know what the future held, and told me to pray for us. I still pushed her further away i believe. I texted her everyday. Now she told me that she didn't cheat on me while living here but i know she did because when she left she left her cell that was in my name and didn't erase all the [censored] like she thought she did. She was sexting with a few different guys and the guy from FB i know she met with him.
2 weeks ago she said she wanted a divorce. I asked why and she said closure for the kids. I didn't buy it, and come to find out there's om she's seeing now. I love my wife very much, and i know i'm partly to blame for this. I have read DR, and understand it, but am i too late. I've been dark since last sunday, but i don't think that really matters to her. BTW for the GAL i've been going out with friends, and started working out again. Thanks for reading.
