It is just tricky I guess because we haven't been civil since around Thanksgiving. So, the past 5 weeks of civility is new and I just don't know if it crosses the line to "friends". I don't think so because I don't want to be his friend and I am trying to show that with my actions. However, does he think we are friends because I am being civil, which is a huge change from my raging anger in December and January…..just tough to know what he is thinking, which is mind reading anyway.
Same thing here, broke. We haven't been "cool" since Thanksgiving. But I've changed so much, hoping he notices.
On the friend thing: I do think there is a certain level of friendship that needs to grow b/c you can't be married to someone you aren't friends with. And yes, we would normally NEVER be friends with someone who would do these things to us but we're talking about a different kind of love - not just platonic. Either way, it sounds like you're doing a great job of GALing my friend. Keep up the good work.
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