You and I are working pretty much along the same time line (at least as far as part 2 goes for me). Like your h, mine is totally self-centered as well and, like you, it's been 2 1/2 years. If he asked about my kids or grandkids, I think I'd stroke out on the spot.
Isn't it funny how you keep on doing things you did before h left until you realize that you don't have to cater to his preferences anymore. I think one of the things I enjoy the most is being able to eat what I want. There were so many things that I liked that he wouldn't eat, so they never made it to the table.
Hope you're feeling better.
Me: 59 and holding H: :53 Me: 1 S, 1 D, both grown M: 19 T: 23 BD: 9-23-2013