I Still Think It's Too Late (pt 2)

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Tim, yeah you pegged it. As I mentioned way above, I was suspicious and trying not to be excited - but the very way she worded it "stop the divorce", well it's kind of hard do read vagaries into that. But that's just what it was.

I could try to figure out what was behind it, if she changed her mind yet again or just what. To try to blame the lawyers - saying it's to their advantage to prolong the process, or that we've both done things to make matters worth is - well I don't know what to call it.

Regardless, here I am where I was 2 days ago. Except maybe buying some time - completely the opposite of what she's saying. This thing was pretty close to being over from what I could see. We were about to submit our docs to the court, and agree on division.

Maybe you're completely right, her L told her the facts as presented. Is she afraid of not getting everything she wants? Does she think mediation is going to get her these things? Like I said, by showing me what she wanted and how she felt I'm too leery to go down the pathway of working things out like that now.

I've only been on defensive, and she has not seen or heard anything from me regarding any of this other than my email denying her accusations and her trying to turn the tables on me.

To say "stop the divorce", but really mean "continue the divorce, just a different way" are 2 different things. She could have told the lawyer that - pretty easily in fact. Something like "I want to try a mediator". 6 words, pretty easy stuff.

If I get a chance to talk to her parents at Church tomorrow (I've sort of avoided it), I'm going to let them know about this development. I've not told them about all the accusations she made, nor her identity theft. But perhaps if she had a moment of weakness and considered reconciliation, they might convince her to at least consider it.

Buying time will at the very least allow me what the rest of you guys here have had - the ability to even practice DBing. The WW might get a chance to see me GAL, detaching, doing 180's, etc. Even this is an answer to my prayers - so I'm not going to push it. It's something even if it's a sick roundabout way of getting it.

I'm going dark again - I won't answer her at all. This doesn't warrant that. She'll get what she wants no matter what I answer. She wants to see the bug twitch, and I'm not going to give her that satisfaction.

I'm going to go hop on my bike and blow off some steam. Thanks for everything Tim, broke, V, Phoebe, Painter, NYGal, CWOL, Uphill, Painter, Sparkls, Sandi and Thornton! What a weird couple of days.