Those attachments were welcomed support and comradery. Don't beat yourself up over that.

Move on, learn, grow.

When you have taken the time you need to reflect, cone back.

We all are missing something. Otherwise we would not be here. We can grow and developed and become less dependent on needing what we miss. But I personally don't think we should develope ourselves so much to fill that need. I have a need for a healthy R and regardless how fulfilling a life I can create, there are some aspects of a deep R that cannot and should not be belittled.I can put those needs aside for a while but ultimatelyiI will have a R that meets that.


R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together