Rednail- Me, Myself, and I

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Good morning, Red, I hope your shower goes well today. I agree you just need a statement that you feel comfortable with to get others to understand that you do not want to talk about the state of your M. Maybe you could say that you don't want to talk about it because a bridal shower isn't appropriate. You don't want to take the focus off the bride where it belongs. Then, enjoy your time with family (seems like they consider you part of their family).

Do you have a boundary set about talking about he kids? Originally, I thought you weren't going to respond….I thought I remembered you ignoring his texts or letting his calls go to voicemail unless they were important. I thought you were leaving him a list with all the details he needed and headed out of the house as soon as he got there. IMHO, he really is still trying to control and he uses the kids to do that as often as he can. That doesn't mean that you are talking to him too much unless you think that you aren't sticking by the boundary that you set with it….