Ghost Busting - Time to accept what is happening

[ATPeace]

Cbt was a no go the guy said I need to speak to relate to accept the marrage is over and come to terms with what is happening complet waste of time

WOW! Unbelievable! When Coach was here, he couldn't say enough good things about it, however, that was a few years ago. You must have gotten a lemon. Did someone say it was to help you with your MR? no it is about my thinking I thought it might help but the guy was ...cbt is not what you need so I will speak to relate marrage councillors to see if they can help me to come to terms with this

My daughter will not go to therapy

If she is making suicidal threats, she may not get a vote. There is always a chance she is becoming a product of what she sees in her mother. She disrespects, gets dramatic, threatens, and throws fits when she doesn't get her way. Most kids want their parents to stay together, but this one wants her parents to split so she can live in a separate house. What does that tell you? I know my W has been speaking to her about when we go into separate houses I do not know what else she has been saying and tbh I cannot influence things so it will be what it will be

I am at work day time and she throws it back at me so what is changing as I am not arround to do my share of the housework this leads to extra resentment[ from my W to me because in her eyes I still am not doing my share /quote]

I guess she wants you to skip work and stay home doing all of her jobs. So much for all that housework you were doing! Yes complete bollocks nothing I do or did was ever good enough for her

[quote]Nothing I do is good enough never was and now never will be

You've got that right!

RD your advice has been great and I need to get my ass in gear

I think we are all in agreement.

It really is not easy being in an in house separation and all I can say is I do realise that I am stronger than I thought I was.

So I look arround the house and I keep thinking to myself when I go into my own house what do I take ...what items do I take with me pots pans knifes forces spoons plates toaster or do I just start a fresh with a few memories of the house as Posable

Do people regret not taking more than they did or do they regret taking not enough items and wish they had taken more than they did.

sandi I do not have words that I can give to you to thank you for being there for me I am a long way from moving forwards with my life but day by day I do feel stronger

How do I know anymore if I am doing the right thing ...I do not know what the right thing is for the children I do not want to be selfish this is not just about me never has been ...I have to do the right thing for the little ones.

I thought that trying to rebuild a family was the right thing W will not work on it so this leaves me with very few options and it is because she does not want to work on things that the tension is still there and the eggshells are under our feet