Read up on Surviving Infidelity and be as prepared as you can be. Validate, by cheerful, a bit detached, never desperate, and I like the idea of you setting a time to talk, not her. Yes, she's stewing in it for sure, and wondering wth?
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat