I sent (or thought I sent) a post, but I'm not seeing it.
I think your nice-guyness is showing. Unless you have withheld information about the MR, then I don't see your W giving you a legit reason for breaking up the family. Her telling you she gets panic attacks and that you have to get away from her immediately is a little suspicious sounding, to me. She then threatens to take your children and leave if you don't move out. To me, that is being a bully.
You are concerned and are considering leaving b/c of her health? You are the one with health issues.....not her. Has she been to a doctor about these attacks? Is she taking prescription medication for her panic attacks? Have you ever seen her have a panic attack? If so, and if you are the reason......what is there about you that gives her panic attacks?
It all just seems a bit....convenient.
Like I said, check with a lawyer.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
