I'm the HD in the marriage. I don't have much in the way of interests outside the marriage or house but over the past 2 years have started to. I have been feeling trapped. I was never 'allowed' to do anything that wasn't 'together'. We have had to do everything together and it has burned me out. I work all day (at home) while she gets to do what she wants (hobbies, hobby based home business). I also have to take care of things for her business. At the end of my work day, i'm beat and need some time for myself. Well, she's had all day for her time and now wants the rest of the day with me. On top of not even having vacations, rarely seeing family, being cut off from friends, and the SSM, it all boiled up inside me. I would say i'm not focused on sex but more like the lack of it. Interestingly enough, although W has decided to 'turn around', we have ML twice in 2 weeks and she has been a bit more affectionate, i am not very interested most of the time in increasing the sex. Some of this is from AD medication, but in general, i'm not sure that is will make any difference to me now.
