That sounds awful - are you still considering moving into your mom's place? Would you feel comfortable setting the boundary of H calling you first before he came over? If he is willing to abide by the simple boundary, problem would be solved. That is very tricky and I am sorry you have to go through that. That makes it even more impressive that you are DB'ing so well. If my H was in and out of my house that would make it so much tougher….
M 44 H 46 M 20yrs T 25 yrs S15 S12
ILYBINILWY 7/18/15 Move to MBR 9/8/15 Physical Separation 10/10/15 Suspect A 8/2015 Confirm A 12/27/15 D filed by H 2/2/16