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There isn't anything to say sparkles. You reminded him. He blew it off as no big deal. That is end of conversation.


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Hi Sparkls, I might be wrong but haven't you been fired as his wife? Isn't he living with OW? So why are you doing this for me? If he wants a life without you, then he has to deal with his stuff not you. My STBXH didn't redirect his mail and I took it as a sign he would come back. Nope it was just laziness! Don't do mind reading as it is not healthy for you.

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I agree with Tyler. You did him a favor. I would just let it go. It's on him now.

You are probably biting at the bit to prolong this text sequence, I would be too, but stick to what you've learned and just leave it alone.


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I didn't respond. He's blowing full steam ahead with moving 2000 miles away so there's nothing I can do anymore.


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You can put that focus back on you and become so friggen' awesome that maybe H will wonder what the hell he is doing.

And if he doesn't, you'll know you'll be ok because you're so friggen' awesome.

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H: "Also, would you mind putting my license and W-2s in the mailbox. I can pick them up after work tonight."


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How are you feeling, Sparks?

I was thinking earlier that I didn't think it was a good idea to text H but I didn't want to go against the grain.

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I don't know. Sad. I sent the text without really any expectation (I thought most likely he wouldn't respond at all).
Probably should've just kept my mouth shut but I wouldn't have felt like I was being the better person if I didn't say anything.

Just feels very much like the end...


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you took the high road. I think you did good. I have a feeling what the issue is and think it would not have sat well with you if you ignored it and there was trouble.


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Thinking he wouldn't respond is an expectation sparkles. I'm sorry the interaction has upset you.

I was afraid this would happen, it was something you felt you needed to do. You did it so it's off your conscience. He obviously could care less about the issue. Therefore you should also have no cares about it.

Like Thorton said. Time to put the focus back on you.


The person that you will spend the most time with in your life is yourself, so make yourself as interesting as possible.
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