Speeches don't work. You are not detaching. Whatever you are doing will come across as controlling. She hates controlling right now. It will just backfire. I would just leave it alone and truly detach to get her to the place she needs to go.
Me-LBH, 48 Spouse-WW, 48 Married for 19 years Son, 12 BD #1 - November 1998 (EA 7 months after wedding) BD #2 - November 2015 (same XBF EA) WW filed D February 2016 WW moved out April 2016
