I think I kind of set a boundary. I said, " I am sorry that you feel like that, but I will be continuing to pick the kids up @ xx on this night as we have. If we need to make other arrangements let me know and we can look into our options."
I don't see this as a "boundary", but more like a pronouncement. But, it's fine. Everything doesn't have to be a boundary.
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I am thinking of stating a boundary of something like.
"I have stated that I will not assist in the dissolution of the covenant we made with God on our wedding day, nor do I approve of the destruction of our family. When you continue to ask me to assist by providing info or paying the fess, I feel that you do not respect my feelings. If you continue to ask or expect me to be a part of this I will not respond to anything unless directly related to the children and their needs."
Not much of a "consequence" but it is something. Thoughts on this and any changes?
I think you really need to know where you stand, before you start calling it a boundary. Just a few days ago you were going to give her a speech about hurrying up the D process, and today you want to put up boundaries. I really think you are still trying to control her, regardless of the name you pin to it.
You are swinging wildly from one thing to the other, which looks like you are wanting to do something to get a desired reaction.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
