This is what happened: I got a text saying "I have to pick something from the house and I want to see the kids when I get off work today." Sent at like 3 am.
I woke up around 6:20 and saw it..and was like crap. 6:40-Hey are you awake? (H) Yes (Me) Is it okay if I come over? (H) Sure (Me)
I was already up(kids got up extra early today too) and getting ready so I figured he could come see the kids and get whatever he needed. He has been better at not popping in anymore especially since I found out about his A.
He came in, used the bathroom. I was already up, looked decent, had my bed made, kids were up etc. I had the door shut of my room, and he came into the room. I got my shirt and walked out and went into the bathroom when he came into the bedroom. Went along my way. Got kids dressed, got breakfast ready,(honestly forgot about him for like 30 minutes while I was doing our morning routine.)
Went to the bathroom which is next to my room.He had laid across the bed and fell asleep with his feet hanging off the side of the bed.
I didn't say anything, just went back to doing my own thing. He woke up, used the bathroom again, s3 gave him one of the muffins I made for them for breakfast, and he sat on the couch. He was like "I'm really tired I'm going to go." I was on the computer in the game room and just said Okay. He stood by the door for 2-3 minutes until I came up to lock it behind him. He just stared at me for what seemed like forever, then asked is I was still giving him the kids at 11:30 tomorrow. I said yes. He stood there for 2-3 extra minutes and then moved out of the door frame so I could shut it. I just said drive safe and locked the door.
I really didn't talk to him besides 2-3 sentences and he slept for like an hour. He didn't visit the kids AND he didn't take anything with him. It was WEIRD.
I do know his schedule hands down for the next year. It has been the same for 2 years. The only thing that varies every week is the mandatory overtime.
Whenever we have to pick which days he has the kids he has to do it like the day before he has them because he doesn't know when he will have overtime until a day before. I told him 3 weeks ago I need the 17th off. I don't NEED it but want it off. We will see what he does. If he doesn't give me it off and is willing to work with me then I am BUYING him a calendar and putting in the days I want him to have the kids.
Then he can't give me a hard time. Honestly even now he can't give me a hard time for wanting a set schedule. Should I print a calendar and give it to him TOMORROW with the rest of the month and days I would like him to have the kids?
Is it mean if I pick his best days off for the kids which means less OW time? Like if he has them Sunday, he works Monday so he will have to sleep all monday after he gives them to me vs if he is with her he can spend all sunday, and monday morning with her. Am I being a B*tch for wanting to mess it up? Maybe every other good day off? What do you guys think?
