well we went to court for our custody battle / divorce on my bday this past feb25th. Unfortunately the court was rescheudle because they had 8 CPS cases infront of us and they only had 1 judge. grrr!! i still had to pay my translator for my witnesses + my L + all the ppl i served Police department included. They reschedule for April 6, which also happens to be her bday. What a coincidence. But i dont think it's a coincidence i think it's God working his plan. I left all my worries to the man up stairs and i feel wonderful.
I had a small victory with my wife this past saturday over txt.Which happens to be the first time my W apologizes to me over something. First time in like 4 yrs. Here is the scenerio. I get to her house on saturday in order to pickup my daughters and well my W was at work. Her mother was home so she gave me my girls. She hands me over their stuff and clothes. She also tells me that my 1yr daughter is no longer using a bottle or pacifier and she gives me this zippy cup that is for training. I tell her no thanks i will look for that zippy cup and buy my own because i will eventually need it too. I leave the house with my daughters and well 10 min later i get a txt from my W. reads like this :
Wife : "Sophia has not had a bottle or pacifer for a week now. please do not give her either. i have a new cup for her use that only. when you bring them back please bring back their bows you didnt bring back last time as well of all of their belongings they took now, thank you."
"My mom told me that you didnt want to take the cup, which i dont understand why its for her well being, please make sure its the same cup i got her when you do buy her one. I got that one for a reason its better for her teeth because they were already getting a little deformed from the round bottle and zippy cup. tahts why the cup is so importat."
I reply : " I told her i would buy one . If i need to get the exact one, where did you buy it?"
Wife : " NI got those at walmart. Im not trying to be mean, if thats how its coming across but you know how i am when it comes to the girls health and her teeth were really becoming round, i dont want our problems to come in between their well being , thats all."
Me: " No, not all. I just dont think you are responsible for providing me items that i will need and that i can buy, thats why i told your mother she can keep it and i will buy one. Also just to be on the same page I am assuming no more pacifier?"
( this is where it gets crazy)
Wife : " Why are you always trying to make me look like a bad mother. its like everything i try and tell you for the well being of my kids so we can be on the same page and work together. you try and flip to negative so you can win a case and you dont even realize that it doesnt matter who winds the case in the mean time we have two kids who dont our prblems involved wether i have them or you have them we have to work together when it comes to them. i dont know what else you want i left her cup and you refused it and if you read the text i first sent you it says no pacifier. youre just so set out to try and get me that you cant even read you messages right its a shame. Not even for their well being can you put your pride and our problems aside."
me: "HUH?? I just answered you that , No you didnt come across as mean. I just felt i needed to buy her my own . I dont know how that is giving you the message that i think youre a bad mother? But anyways, i dont have the nevergy or time to even explain how im right or wrong or vice versa. im with my girls. 1yr old has her exact zippy cup you bought , end of story.
Wife: " when you call me irresponsible after i was responsible and left the items for you to take it is offending"
Me: " Helen, read the txt again. i said, I just dont think you are responsible for providing items i can buy , or is not your job to give me those things, it's not fair for you. In other words it's my job it's my responsibility to buy those things which includes diapers, milk , food,thermometer , wipes, etc. I dont expect for you to have those things in the bag either. Does that make sennse?"
Wife: " OK well i apologize i really re read it like 5times and it looks like txt is missing. so i got a total different message. Thank you for getting her the cup."
Wow! thats the first time she apologizes to me in like 3 yrs lol! For me it's a small victory. I know it's pointless but she did apologize. I know that in the past i would of kept going back and forth back and forth but now her txt just irritates me at times like she wants to argue about evertyhing and quiet honestly im done with that. It probably bothers her tht i dont go in defense mode like i used too , or keep going. I feel better i feeel confident, I am at peace. I no longer let her get to me and control my emotions. I shut her out immediately.
