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[Underdog]

Hey lil' sis.

I didn't have any trouble following you to the end and finishing your post.

I just want to say that your post is emotionally healthy. While I wish I were there to hug you through the sadness, what you want is fair to you, and he told you that he can't/won't give it to you. I'm so proud of you for standing up for yourself and letting him know your boundaries. It's not an ultimatum. You weren't manipulating him. You asked, he said no, and you drew your line in the sand. Emotionally healthy discussion, and not surprising consequence when you do the right thing.

I know your D8 is hurt. I think the right kind of attention will help soothe her hurt. After all, she knows how hurt you are. You'll get through it with time and effort.

My gym schedule ended when D22 needed a chauffeur. I'm not a good role model for you. But just getting out and walking or roller blading or riding bikes with your D8 might go a long way in making you feel like you're doing something that is good for you.

I love your dad. He's the best. Your cousin sounds like a complete nut job. WTF?

Hugs,

Big Sis