I think she is under the impression that she will file, I will sign the papers as is once served and we will be done after the mandated waiting period before it can be final. I don't want to be petty and I know that dragging my feet once served will only delay the inevitable, but I guess standing true to myself and not participating unless necessary rather than being "helpful" is a valid stance. She loves to us "we" need to do this or that and not "I" need xxx in regards to D related subjects.
I softly reminder her that it is a "she" and not a "we" scenario.
I am thinking of stating a boundary of something like. "I have stated that I will not assist in the dissolution of the covenant we made with God on our wedding day, nor do I approve of the destruction of our family. When you continue to ask me to assist by providing info or paying the fess, I feel that you do not respect my feelings. If you continue to ask or expect me to be a part of this I will not respond to anything unless directly related to the children and their needs."
Not much of a "consequence" but it is something. Thoughts on this and any changes?
