Where do we go from here Part 2

[TimR]

Well today the pit in my stomach when I awoke was not as big as usual. When I got into the shower, I did not sing sad songs to myself while getting ready for work. And while there is an under current of pain bubbling through every so often, I am going to enjoy and be grateful for this little reprieve.

I am been thinking of a common idea going through the threads about DBing really being for you so when they actually D you, you are a better person on the other side. Maybe that happens a lot, however I cannot agree it is the purpose of DBing... letting the LBS feel good about themselves. No I have to feel as though what I am doing is for a purpose and that purpose is to reunite (and be prepared) with WW in the future.

Let me ask if we are all just here to get better through the D process then why don't we just pack up and leave, throw in the towel and call it quits? It would be easier and less painful for most of us! Yes maybe many of us will never reconcile with our S but the purpose of why we are here is to do just that. Vets ask us "are you doing that to win W/H back or for yourself." I don't think it is to help move on but so the change sticks. If you are doing something primarily to get someone back, the changes you made wont stick once you do.

Maybe a vet will come on and say No Tim your wrong. I would still ask that vet then Why isn't the book called surviving divorce?