Thank you tl2 for posting an update. Is shows us that we can make it through this incredibly difficult time in our lives. We will come out a different person than before but that isn't necessarily a bad thing.
Me: 48 y/o W: 47 y/o Together: > 20 yrs BD: Dec '15, then S 2nd BD: Mar '16, then I filed for D April '16: started piecing
You are right. A lot of it just stinks for many reasons. At the end of the day it is change...we build it up in our minds as an almost catastrophic event...it is certainly destructive in several ways and not something I wanted. But I was powerless to stop it and believe I did what I could when I could.
Like with sports, sometimes you just have to play hurt.